Couples often come to see me for therapy after a big incident, like an act of betrayal, or a major miscommunication. Other times, couples come to see me to address a sustained feeling of loneliness and disconnect in the relationship. Together, we learn ways to navigate the waters of deep hurt within the relationship. Our goal …
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“Every sunrise starts a new journey.” I love how this quote reminds us that when we wake up each day, we get to start fresh. It’s a true gift to recognize that we do get to start anew every morning when we arise. Each dawn reminds us of the constant renewal that happens around us—in nature, and through …
So Hurricane Irma has come and gone. Months later, I’m sure some of us are still picking up the pieces or at least still talking about how it has impacted us. Shortly after returning home safely after having to evacuate, I began to think about how the whole experience was like a metaphor to relationships. …
This week’s challenge was to tell someone you care about what you appreciate, adore and admire about them. It’s important to let the special people in your life know how much you love them or what it is you hold dear about them. Often times the things that we miss the most when they are …
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As I was driving the other day, every dashboard light lit up and the car started acting weird. Anxious, I drove straight home only to find that my A/C was also acting strangely. Needless to say, dealing with the coincidental malfunctions made for an interesting day/night. It got me thinking about how life is full …
We have the Thanksgiving holiday to provide us with our annual reminder to show gratitude. I’m participating, as many do, with a gratitude list. However, what we need to keep in mind is that our gratitude list should be an everyday affair. Starting your day with gratitude brings you so many benefits. With negativity and …
During a client session this week, I listened to a couple discuss how an incident in their marriage made them realize just how fragile their relationship is. I hear couples identify the frailty of their connection countless times a day: “If only I would have known” or “Why did it have to take XYZ to …
Holding on. Many of us are holding onto something. Why do we hold on? And what do we need to truly let go? I think, no matter what person or notion we are holding onto, what we are really holding on to are dreams. Dreams of the future, dreams about recreating past moments of happiness, …
What is happiness? There are countless books, articles, comics, and even TV shows on how to be happy or what makes people happy. The more I think about it, happiness is really about a collection of moments. Moments like getting a good grade in school, watching a sunset, being in the arms of your lover, …
Walking along the beach near my office I get to see a lot of weddings. The hopeful celebration of two people, and their families and friends, coming together and making promises of love, life, security, and a future together. I think of the promises that are made; the spoken and unspoken that we speak to our partner when …
